Shamanic Cord-Cutting and Returning Energetic Baggage


All relationships in life have energy cords attached to them. Connecting between energy fields, they can be smaller than a finger or as wide as a football. Your first energy cords are with your parents, particularly Mother after birth, and immediate family then as we grow older we form new relationships outside of the family- with friends, co-workers and with intimate partners among others. 

In a healthy relationship, the exchange of energy between partners should be equal. But unfortunately when relationships are toxic or imbalanced in power or other aspects, it is important to heal the wound of the energy cord. Cords which must be pulled out, cut or mended are often failed romantic relationships or marriages but can be any kind of close connection such as parent/child, siblings, boss/employee etc. By not receiving energy in the relationship and giving energy, one partner will have a deficiency. Cutting cords is especially important after leaving a traumatic or abusive relationship. Particularly invasive cords may even remain attached through transitions to Spirit after someone passes over as well as through multiple lifetimes.

If the cord is not cut and healed it will continue leaking energy and take longer to heal or may never fully heal. Leaving a broken energy cord can cause weakness in your energy field which can also be felt on a physical level depending on the severity. You may then go on to attract the same pattern again, only starting with weaker energy and therefore less to give.

Cutting cords does not mean you have to cut this person out of your life, though it is often the case that the person is someone you no longer have dealings with, but rather that you are cutting out the negative portion of your interactions with them resulting in your relationship and emotions toward them being healthier for YOU. In these more difficult situations between family we call your Spirit Guides to complete the process by helping you heal and teaching you appropriate boundaries. It can be viewed as disconnecting energetically from someone.

The following are some signs of toxic cords that need to be cut and healed?

• Unable to move on
• Unable to stop thinking or obsessing about a person
• Frequent conversations in your mind with a person
• Frequently remembering what they said in the past, feeling their ongoing judgment or criticism
• Arguments, sometimes daily in your mind with someone (these can be actual psychic arguments)
• Constant memories or emotions that arise – i.e. we used to watch that show together
• The temptation to go back to a relationship that does not serve you
• Stalking another online through social networking, watching them compulsively
• Unable to sleep, or endless processing of the past
• Deep feelings of sadness, anger, and depression around the past
• Feelings of wanting to get revenge, or constantly aware of unfair treatment
• Crying a whole lot, an emotional wreck
• Turning down other offers and invitations, stuck in the past, feeling uninterested

What can I expect to feel once the cords are cut?

In simple terms, you can expect to find your mind no longer dwells upon the person as the psychic attachment has been dissolved. Your mind is quieter, calmer and it is like cleaning out a closet – all those old emotions associated with that person dissolve as the communication between you ends. You now have extra space in your mind to fill with something better, and you will certainly be clearer in intent.
Imagine the freedom you can feel having that extra peace of mind, letting go of unwanted baggage, not to mention being free emotionally as well. If this sounds too good, you may be wondering why don’t we all do this regularly, why don’t people know about this? The reason is that we are never taught. In a world where we tend to believe in only what we see, such psychic cords of attachment go unnoticed and so we tend to carry unwanted energy and connections around with us many more years than we need to.
When you do a cord-cutting on the energy cords that bind you, the above-listed symptoms lift.

How does Cord Cutting happen?

There are many tutorials and articles written online about this subject with step-by-step instructions which you can try but unfortunately, in my experience these seldom work properly and though initially you may feel a sense of relief, the cords will often return within around three days and many times will be significantly worse!

An experienced Professional will be able to find the roots of a particular cord; who, what or where it is attached to, where exactly in the energy field it is located, what it consists of as well as how long it may have been there. Armed with this information makes the likelihood of the cutting being stable and lasting!


Similar to Cord Cutting, sometimes we are carrying energy or ‘stuff’ belonging to other people that isn’t our own. This will often be toxic or hurtful in nature, such as feelings of hurt, anger, grief, sadness, depression etc

At some level we will be aware that this feels alien to our own energy, but not always, as sometimes we can be carrying it for a long, LONG time, even across multiple generations or lifetimes!

In order to have taken up the load for another soul, we will have made an agreement at some stage in some way, shape or form even if originally under coercion. Sometimes we take someone else’s ‘stuff’ from them in order to ‘help’ them carry it and then become unable to hand it back. Often the other person is unaware they have given you something of theirs to carry and other times they are well aware and have even manipulated you into it either through malice or because they can’t bear the weight of it themselves and you, as a kind and empathetic soul, are an easy target!

In the beginning it is usually a relatively easy task to undertake (depending on the weight of what you are already carrying of your own that is!), however over time it will become heavier and heavier to hold onto, eventually feeling like you are carrying a heavy load, you will become exhausted and your own energy levels will become lower and lower.

It is also worth mentioning that it is essential for the other person’s growth and healing that they receive their own ‘stuff’ back, as without that they cannot move ahead on their soul’s journey.

Therefore, we do a ceremony together with your Spirit Guides to hand back what isn’t yours to the Spirit Guides of the other. If you are concerned that that person may become ‘swamped’ by hurtful feelings that they suddenly have to deal with all at once then rest assured that their own Spirit Guides will hold it safe for them until they deem it the best time for them to be able to experience and heal from it. The important thing is that you are not carrying it for them anymore.

You should feel a sense of deep relief and freedom, many people also report a feeling of ‘lightness’ and becoming ‘unstuck’, we will also discuss ways you may have allowed this to happen and how you can work to keep your spiritual boundaries strong in future encounters!

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